How to Choose Relaxing Music

One of the questions I’m asked most often when I’m out doing presentations or workshops is, “Can you tell me what relaxation music to add to my playlist to use at home?” On the surface this sounds like an easy question– but it isn’t. That’s like asking 10 people on the street to name the best rock ‘n roll band of all time. They’ll most likely name 10 different bands because each person will have a different idea of what makes up a great rock band based on their likes, dislikes, biases, memories, life experience, culture, etc. The same is true for relaxing music. However, there are some general guidelines that can help point you in the right direction.  You can also watch the video here where I explain this.

BASED ON RECENT RESEARCH, HERE ARE 4 TIPS FOR CHOOSING RELAXING MUSIC–

1) The tempo of the music should be moderate- not too fast, too slow, or have too many changes (slow in one part but speeds up later)

2) The dynamics should also stay fairly even throughout the music– no big changes from quiet to LOUD or vice versa

3) The fewer instruments, the better– think solo instruments with a little background music

4) It needs to be music *you* find relaxing!

There is some debate on whether or not music with lyrics is relaxing. Some believe it is, while others think it’s distracting. I usually recommend lyrics in a foreign language– that way your brain can’t latch onto the words and go romping down the road of distraction when you’re trying to relax. Another element to consider is environmental sounds such as ocean waves or chirping birds. Some people find that relaxing– others not so much.

The bottom line is to find music you like, that relaxes you and helps you meditate or feel calmer. Consider these tips when you go browsing through the iTunes or Amazon store. Listen to clips of songs and see what feels right to your ears.  If you want to include relaxation music into your self-care routine, you may find this recent blog post helpful!  You can also check out my podcast interview on the topic here.

If you find that you’re still unsure about what music to buy, you can always contact your friendly music therapist. We’re experts on this! Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.  I’m always happy to help!

~Stephanie

Elliott, Polman, & McGregor. “Relaxing Music for Anxiety Control,” Journal of Music Therapy, 48(3), 2011, 264-288.