To Play… and Not to Play
In my younger years, I was a teenage pro at making mixtapes (and later mix CD’s). I’d give them to boyfriends (so embarrassing to think of those now!) and trade them with my friends. Usually the tapes/CD’s would include whatever songs were popular at the time, or songs that reminded us of a shared event (like prom or football season). As a musician and music lover, making those tapes was like second nature to me. So it’s always a little surprising when my clients aren’t as well-versed as I am with making their own playlists, and they rely on streaming services to do that for them.
Why it’s important to make your own playlist
Creating a music playlist is more than just organizing songs—it’s a powerful tool for emotional wellness, motivation, and self-expression. Playlists allow you to curate sounds that match your mood, energize your workouts, help you relax, or even spark creativity. They can serve as personal soundtracks for different moments in life, offering comfort, joy, or a sense of connection. Making a playlist encourages mindfulness as you reflect on what you need emotionally or mentally. It also provides a sense of control, especially during stressful times, by giving you the ability to shift your mood or mindset through music. Sharing playlists with others can deepen relationships and foster a sense of community (like I once did with my friends). Whether you’re setting the tone for a productive day or winding down before sleep, having a playlist tailored to your needs makes everyday moments more intentional and enjoyable.
But….
Some songs can trigger emotions that are painful, or remind you of people/places/events that have upset you. What do we do about those?
Creating a “Do Not Play” list is a simple yet powerful act of self-care, especially when using music to support your emotional well-being. Just as certain songs can lift your spirits or energize your day, others can unexpectedly trigger sadness, stress, or unwanted memories. A “Do Not Play” list helps you take control of your listening environment by setting clear emotional boundaries. It allows you to protect your mood and mental health, especially during sensitive times such as grieving, healing, or managing anxiety. Being intentional about what you avoid can help you feel safer, more grounded, and less overwhelmed. It also increases your awareness of how music affects your emotions, encouraging more mindful listening habits overall.
Whether you’re building a playlist for relaxation or productivity, having a “Do Not Play” list as well as your regular “Yes Play!” list ensures your experience stays supportive, positive, and just what you need for the day!
If you need help in making some playlists to support your mental health journey, I’m always happy to assist! And if you feel like you need more than just playlist support, I’m here for that too. Feel free to reach out anytime!
